Today I have one long quote for you. I think it’s really worth reading and thinking about. Especially, that love is misinterpreted so often everywhere around us and I believe it to be one of the main reasons why that many people in the modern societies end up feeling unhappy and frustrated with life.
They made us believe that real love, the one that’s strong, only happens once, more likely before your 30s. They never told us that love is not something that you can put in motion, neither has time schedule. They made us believe that each one of us is the half of an orange, and that life only makes sense when you find that other half. They did not tell us that we were born as whole, and that no-one in our lives deserve to carry on his back such responsibility of completing what is missing on us: we grow through life by ourselves. If we have a good company it’s just more pleasant.
They made us believe in a formula “two in one”: two people sharing the same line of thinking, same ideas, and that it is what works. It’s never been told that it has another name: invalidation. Only two individuals with their own personality is how you can have a healthy relationship. It has been made to believe that marriage is an obliged institution and that fantasies out of hour should be repressed. They made us believe that there’s one way formula to be happy, the same one to everybody, and the ones that escape from that are condemned to be delinquents. We have never been told that those formulas go wrong, they get people frustrated, they are alienating, and that we can try other alternatives.
Oh! Also they did not tell us that no one will tell us these things. Each and every one of us will have to learn by ourselves. And, when we get to the point that you are in love with yourself first, that’s when you can fall in love with somebody…
We live in a world where we hide to make love … although violence is practiced in broad daylight. – John Lennon
Let me know your thoughts on this in the comment section!
Though John (Lennon) & I might not see eye to eye on everything, I think he shares some important ideas. Looking for your “other half of the orange” is a ridiculous waste of time. He’s right: we are already whole, and the healthiest relationships come out of that realization. Thanks for sharing something important.
Exactly! It takes so much time and energy which we could use for something more important. In the end, if we already feel whole ourselves, we can bring much more into a relationship and we are less needy so the other person doesn’t feel trapped but rather released in such a relation.
The Beatles were long before my time, but over the past year, I’ve encountered some really amazing quotes from Lennon. The man seems rather intellectual, and I could only imagine having a conversation with him. This post is exactly what I am referring to.
“They made us believe that each one of us is the half of an orange, and that life only makes sense when you find that other half. They did not tell us that we were born as whole, and that no-one in our lives deserve to carry on his back such responsibility of completing what is missing on us: we grow through life by ourselves. If we have a good company it’s just more pleasant.”
This is most interesting. I was taught the opposite, but his perspective is interesting nonetheless. You learn something everyday. Thank you for sharing this.
I agree, he was indeed a very wise man. It’s so bad that we are all taught things that actually make us feel lost and confused in life. Thank you for sharing your thoughts!
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Thank you, Melody! 🙂
I totally agree with you on the point of thinking love has a set time, it leaves us hallow and frustrated when love doesn’t follow our myopic plans.
True! That’s why I think we should never let the pressure to find a relationship get us down.
I love this John Lennon quote! That’s sound advice for both young and not-so-young!