Us against the world

I used to be scared. I used to think most people are mean, want to scam me or hurt me. And thus, I isolated myself. I avoided too much human contact. I was afraid to meet new people because I expected them to judge my behaviour, my looks, my personality.

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How to rid yourself of the dependency on other people

Have you ever felt lonely? Have you ever had a moment when you desperately needed support but everyone around was too busy to give it to you? Have you ever had to say goodbye to a long-term relationship and found yourself with a hole after that person, emptiness that you weren’t really sure how to fill? Have you ever found yourself in a desperate need to cheer up but weren’t sure how to do it? I guess we all have. It’s an inevitable part of the journey that human life is, to find yourself hurt or upset or desire attention from others. Today I would like to share with you a little cognitive therapy technique I have learnt, which has helped me immensely to instantly boost my mood in moments when I find myself feeling sad, neglected or lonely. Continue reading

Are we conditioned to hate our jobs?

With the end of Christmas time and the beginning of the new year, there inevitably comes the day of the return to offices and schools. As this day approaches, the social media as well as our own conversations become flooded with sorrowful complaints that the free time is over. And it is in the middle of all this that I find myself wondering why. Continue reading

The answer

What is love? This question has been asked so many times and yet everyone you may have asked have most likely had a completely different answer. In truth, love is just a word. It’s a word every single person defines on their own. It’s an abstraction and just as with many other emotions, no one can really claim to know the single true meaning of it. Continue reading

The best dating advice you’ll ever read

Today I found myself thinking about relationships and more precisely – relationship/dating advice. It seems that everyone on the dating scene these days is obsessed with what they should and shouldn’t do in order to attract/keep a partner. It’s enough to look at the articles flooding glossy magazines or visit a self-help/psychology books section in the nearest library. The tempting titles promise to teach you what and when to say, what to write in a text message after the first date, how to spend the dates, what to wear, how to gaze at the person, when and how to initiate a sexual intercourse. The myriad of bestselling book titles will range from “Dating Guru’s 101 Conversation Starters” to “The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating”. Continue reading

The beautiful mind – reflections on how we limit ourselves

Lately, I caught myself torn between two (possibly even three) distinct ideas for my future career, almost paralyzed by the idea of sharing my time between two completely different goals. After all, we have all been taught that in order to achieve anything, we should choose one path and follow it with abandon, constantly taking steps and educating ourselves in this chosen field. On the other hand, I couldn’t quite accept the idea of choosing only one career. Continue reading

Vlog: How to deal with demotivation and low energy levels

Do you find yourself feeling exhausted and lacking energy to get things going in your life? Do you watch all these successful people all over the Internet and around you and wonder where are they getting all this energy and vitality from? Well, I did as well. In this video I am sharing the strategies that helped me get back on track and I am sure will work for you as well! Continue reading

There are no mistakes…

two-pathsMany people tend to be afraid of having to make decisions. If you ask such a person ‘why’, they will normally tell you that they are afraid of making a mistake, choosing the wrong option. However, when we come to think of it, are things in life really either black or white? And thus can an option only be either a mistake or the right choice? Continue reading

True independence – does it exist?

independentRecently, I have been thinking about independence. Oftentimes we call ourselves independent when we start making decisions for ourselves or earning our living. When it comes to financial independence, it makes sense – when we grow up and start working, we become financially independent from our parents. However, what about the choices and decisions that we make? Are they truly independent? Continue reading

How fairy tales can prevent us from finding true happiness

993310_1333673337538_fullFrom the earliest years we are told countless fairy tales. The little girls are fed with all those stories where the handsome prince comes on the white horse saving the princess… And they live happily ever after… However, no one seems to realize that these repeated threads stay in the subconsciousness of the child, creating the false presumptions in their later life. Continue reading